I regularly fall in love. This is not a sexual attraction love I am referring to, but the warm delight of spending time with certain people. One young lady gave me a surprised look at a herbal weekend (not one I was teaching), when I told her I had fallen quite in love with her. I laughed and told her not to worry, it would probably pass quickly...happens all the time.
What is it about certain people that makes me love them so easily and others not as much? I thought about this on my walk this morning. I remembered one person whom I liked, yet didn't really feel that warmth toward until a number of years had passed. What changed to make that difference? Was it me or was it her? I realized that my love for people is highly dependent on whether or not I'm judging them. When the judgement goes, acceptance enters and the warmth floods in. What a simple concept, and yet so very difficult in practice...non judgement. We may think we're not judgmental, but if we stop for a moment and think about the folks we don't like, it's generally because we disapprove of some facet of their behaviour. What a simple concept! Non-judgement brings love!
What is it about certain people that makes me love them so easily and others not as much? I thought about this on my walk this morning. I remembered one person whom I liked, yet didn't really feel that warmth toward until a number of years had passed. What changed to make that difference? Was it me or was it her? I realized that my love for people is highly dependent on whether or not I'm judging them. When the judgement goes, acceptance enters and the warmth floods in. What a simple concept, and yet so very difficult in practice...non judgement. We may think we're not judgmental, but if we stop for a moment and think about the folks we don't like, it's generally because we disapprove of some facet of their behaviour. What a simple concept! Non-judgement brings love!